We Assume Too Much
Consider the following statements and see if you agree. Also feel free to add to the list.
We assume that . . .
— others understand us. (Especially spouses).
— we understand them. (We love reading “body language”).
— others are open to frank discussions about sensitive topics. (No need to beat around the bush).
— others are closed to frank discussions about sensitive topics. (We should draw lines and never talk about sensitive topics).
— others are wrong to disagree with our opinion because we know we’re right. (After all we consider ourselves an authority on the subject).
— others are right to disagree with our opinion because right and wrong don’t matter anymore. (We should all just try to get along).
— if we take the right courses, read the right books, and get the right degrees, we will be able to manage people with emotional baggage quickly, efficiently, and successfully. (Communication is a piece of cake).
How do you think we can reduce our habit of forming faulty assumptions about others? Any helpful suggestions?
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
We need to listen and focus on who is speaking and what they are saying, not on ourselves and how what they say might affect us.
Uhmmmm ? When my tendency is to shut out and shout out, I tell myself to shut down and open up. By that I mean shut down my mouth and open up my ears. During this interlude I reflect on what a Christian behavior would be. Often times the answer presents itself by the very person who is talking. Sounding out a situation brings a new perspective and insight.