Thinking Through Traumatic Feelings
Grieving at times is real and necessary.
Feelings affect thinking and usually the best thinking comes out of a calm place. It might turn out to be the eye of a hurricane, but emotional disruptions need be turned down as much as possible in order to think clearly.
Sometimes it isn’t possible to drive out all feelings — or is it even necessarily a good idea. Grieving is necessary for longterm mental health and for this reason respected enough to forestall important decisions.
If we can accept that grieving takes more time than most usually expect, then we can step into these difficult seasons being as gentle on ourselves and others as we possibly can. The mental clarity will return, but until then we will be patient and take it as slowly as circumstances permit.
Daily quiet times set the brain’s activities for the day. They allow feelings like fear and worry to be respectfully cared for through reading something helpful, praying (talking to God and giving him your junk) and counting blessings.
The best decisions come from a rested grateful brain free of addictions and resentments of one’s self and others.
Its all about progress not perfection.