Thinking the Thoughts of Others

It’s a quiet violation of boundaries.

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Without permission I insert my thoughts into what I see in another’s behavior absent any clear words of intent they do not speak.

I assign them words they did not explicitly say and then give myself permission to emotionally respond.

I am now free to feel embarrassed, sad, mad, hopeful, encouraged, discouraged and then act accordingly.

Even though the equation is flawed in its setup, by the end, after deep sincere mulling, the analytical answer comes forth to me in brilliant clarity; it’s conclusion so rational and making so much sense, even a child would see it my way.

And then of course I will act shocked and surprised by the other’s response to my response. They will behave as if they didn’t do anything wrong. They will express complete surprise by my behavior.

This will then lead me into entering my season of shock and bewilderment. “Why is it my fault?” I will seriously wonder.

And why won’t they take responsibility for my interpretation of their actions?

Unbelievable!