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This is a touchy subject for many because it draws comparisons between Almighty God and some really difficult events of their past.
Some fathers (and other significant adults) were mean, cruel, abusive, or completely checked out. The message to many children from their fathers have been destructive and shameful.
Anyone who goes through such a traumatic childhood has found particular ways that worked for them back then as means of protection. They had to find some or many ways to survive. They could have become passive or belligerent. They could have learned to become bullies themselves. They could have found some relief in drugs or alcohol. They could have run away and ended up in even worse situations.
All these coping mechanisms worked for awhile and perhaps continued to work well enough after the threats were gone that they crystallized into beliefs and practices in adulthood. Perhaps subconscious decisions or oaths were made to never trust anyone ever again. This then damages relationships with others in adulthood.
The long term problem is the inability to trust others appropriately.
Let me quickly add it is difficult at first for people in general, even those who have had wonderful fathers to automatically trust an invisible God.
So what is the answer for those with father wounds?
Recovery groups are available that are already designed to help recover the wounded child in suffering adults and to connect the disenfranchised with their Heavenly Father.
It is never too late to recover from childhood wounds, but it takes time and effort.
Our soul waits for the LORD; he is our help and our shield.
For our heart is glad in him, because we trust in his holy name.
Let your steadfast love, O LORD, be upon us, even as we hope in you.